An Open Letter To Everyone Who's Tired of Dating Apps

Let me start by saying: I hear you.

You’re not wrong. Dating apps have become a mess. Shallow. Addictive. A numbers game that leaves you feeling lonelier than before. And it’s not you—it’s the design.

We’ve been swiping left and right on love for too long. We’ve grown up. We’ve matured. But the apps? They haven’t kept up.

That’s why we made Bokay.

I didn’t come from tech. I came from the arts. And one day, out of sheer frustration—with dating apps, with the whole scene—I decided to build the kind of app I wish existed. One that slows the scroll and honours the real work of connection.

With Bokay, photos start blurred. As you explore someone’s prompts, their image gradually comes into focus. We want you to slow the swipe—because attraction is more than just looks. It's a fusion of the eyes, mind, and heart.

We also built Juno, your in-app relationship coach. Because love is a skill. And dating? It’s hard. Sometimes we need a little perspective, a little clarity, a little tough love. That’s what Juno’s here for.

And one more thing—
We know safety and trust matter. Too many apps are full of fake profiles, dead-end chats, and people who just aren’t real. Each time that happens, there’s disappointment. And worse, it chips away at your hope.
That’s why everyone on Bokay is verified.

We made Bokay for people who are serious and soulful. People who want dating to feel human again.

And I’ll tell you something personal—
I met my wife, my soul's mate, on a dating app.

There is no other universe where we would’ve met. No mutual friends. No chance encounter. Just a shared hope… and an app that brought us together.

That’s the promise of dating apps when they’re done right: two people with the same intention, crossing paths they otherwise never could.

So if you’ve lost faith, I get it.
But I’m asking you to keep just a little.

Because love is always an act of hope over despair.
And Bokay was built to help that hope grow.

Yours,

Ali Momen
CEO & Co-Founder, Bokay

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